In this article, we present the LOVE paradigm, the Dasbien Theory proposed by Dr. Andy Figueroa (2010)
Inclination: A tendency to a particular aspect, state, character, or action. This means; that if we are under the sun, we sweat; if we drink alcohol, we become dehydrated, get drunk and so on; if a lot of light appears in front of our eyes, we close them; if it’s very cold and we are not dressed properly, we shiver; among other cases.
Like: A person’s tendency to like or be interested in something. This means; that if a person is in front of a glass with water, another glass with fruit juice, another glass with soda and another glass with an alcoholic beverage (wine or beer); each of these 4 elements will cause different conditions and the person will have different inclinations to these 4 elements; that is to say, you will like more one or more of the 4 liquids. Product of your biological condition, psychological experience, idiosyncrasy, cultural context, etc.
Want: To wish for a particular thing or plan of action. Wanting is like asking. That means, if a child says: “Dad, I want a loaf,” it’s like he is asking for a loaf, because he expects his dad to give him a loaf; similarly, when a father tells his son: “Son, I want you to have passing grades” is as if he were asking for passing grades, because the father expects to receive passing grades from his son; or like when a girl tells her partner “I want a kiss” is like asking for a kiss, because the girl waits or wants to receive a kiss.
To love: Well, this proposal says: “to love is to give something good …” (good according to the person subject of love).
With the knowledge of like, want and love, now you can choose to act with judgment and awareness in a healthier, more profitable and happy way in your life. As you may have noticed, like, want and love are complementary, different and necessary; to only do or use can trigger a pathology, it is convenient to find a balance between giving and receiving, between choosing what we like and what we don’t; and always seek good, to us and others.
SOURCE: LO BUENO (Figueroa, 2018)